10 Signs You And Your Partner Need Professional Online Couples Therapy

If there's one thing we all know about relationships, it's that–surprise!–they can be hard. Sure, they come with love, cuddles, inside jokes, and the comfort of knowing you’ve got someone on your team. But they can also come with petty arguments, miscommunication, trust issues and a whole lot of compromise. 

But relationships shouldn't feel impossible. If you constantly feel like you and your other half are butting heads, not resolving arguments and generally not feeling as happy as you once were, you should do something about it before things become irreparable.

Seeing a couples therapist can be a good way to talk through your problems with a neutral party who can help you work through your relationship issues. Thanks to online therapy and counseling, seeing a licensed therapist is easier than it's ever been.

If you're thinking about couples counseling, here are 10 signs that it could be the right decision for your relationship.

1. Lack of trust

Trust is one of the main building blocks of a healthy relationship, so things can turn sour quickly if that's been called into question. 

You feel comfortable and safe when you and your partner trust each other. If one of you breaches this trust, it can lead to arguments, jealousy and insecurity. Once this trust has been broken, it can be extremely hard to rebuild.

Therapy can help rebuild trust and get clear on how the heck it got cracked in the first place. Spoiler alert: We don’t play blame games—we do healing.

2. Keeping secrets

We all deserve a little privacy, but if you’re actively hiding things from your partner or find out they’ve been keeping things from you? That’s worth a deeper look.

Keeping secrets isn't healthy, and you shouldn't feel like you need to keep things from your partner. If you do have these feelings, let's explore them in relationship counseling.

3. Your arguments go unresolved

If you never resolve your arguments, these issues will continue to weigh on your mind and will prevent your relationship from moving forward.

A therapy session will help couples understand each other's perspectives and make it easier to come to a solution the next time you disagree. I'm not saying you'll never argue again, but we will make sure there's always a resolution. 

4. Loss of physical intimacy

Physical touch isn't everything, but intimacy is an integral part of romantic relationships. You should feel like partners, not roommates, after all. If you're not exploring intimacy with your partner, it can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness.

It's a common issue in relationships. Sure, you may have different sex drives or different approaches to physical connection, but you should both be able to communicate your needs. If you don't seem to be aligning, it may be a good idea to start therapy. We'll go through different ways to build intimacy in a relationship to help you and your partner feel closer than ever.

5. You're growing apart

When you're in a long-term relationship, changing as you grow is normal. However, sometimes these changes may result in you and your partner slowly drifting apart. 

Distance in a relationship can cause big problems, especially when it's slowly happening over time. A couples therapy session can help bring you both closer and bridge some of those gaps that have started to form.

6. Frequent and recurring arguments

When you find that you and your partner are constantly arguing over the same thing over and over again, it may help to step back and look at the bigger picture.

Sometimes these arguments may be over relatively minor things, but the frequency and intensity of these arguments could exaggerate the problem. In couples therapy, I'll give you the best techniques to navigate arguments in the future so they don't escalate.

7. Resentment

We all have times when we get annoyed with our partners, whether they don't clean up after themselves or forget to pick up the groceries -- it happens. However, if you have a general resentment towards your partner that never seems to go away, there could be some underlying issues to address.

Whether they've done something to make you feel bitter, or you've got your own individual trauma that has caused these negative feelings, online couples therapy services can help you work through these issues together.

8. Poor communication

Communication is important in all types of relationships, especially romantic ones. If you're unable to communicate clearly and effectively with your partner, it can quickly lead to misunderstandings and arguments. Over time, this can turn into resentment and distance.

In my online and in-person sessions, I teach clients the best communication techniques to improve their relationship and be more open with their partners.

9. You have suspicions or doubts impacting the relationship

If you constantly feel like your partner is lying to you or keeping secrets, it can really take a toll on your perception of the relationship. It can become something that you constantly think about, which can impact your own mental health.

Either your partner has given you reason to be suspicious, or maybe these doubts stem from jealousy. Whatever the reason is, a counselor can help get to the crux of the issue and help you move forward in your relationship.

10. Major life changes

Big life changes, like a new job, relocation, parenthood or grief, can be a big cause of tension in a relationship. It can make things even worse when these changes come completely out of the blue.

These situations can bring out the worst in people, and you may find you don't like what you see if you or your partner is going through these changes. If you're not coping well with these relationship challenges, couples therapy can help.

Online Couples Therapy in Michigan & Georgia

If you’re nodding along to a few of these signs—don’t panic. You’re not failing at relationships. You’re just human.

Couples therapy is a good option for couples who need that little bit of help ironing out some of their relationship issues. Whether there's been a breach of trust or you're starting to feel distant, a counseling session can help you both identify the root problems and suggest how you can move forward.

I offer therapy in the states of Georgia and Michigan, so if you're based in one of those states, let's start talking...